About Please Lie to Me
“Please lie to me” is our usual agreement. This agreement is informal, unconscious, and non-verbal. It is also self-perpetuating. As a result, we continue to live in fear and mistrust of one another. This infects all relationships unless otherwise agreed to. This is no one’s fault but everyone’s problem. Like actors in a play, we are all pretending. Unlike actors, we don’t know we are pretending. Self-deception is seductive and addicting, but like opioids, offers only temporary relief. Afraid of being real and transparent with one another, by default we are left with a lifetime of strategic lying and withholding. In the deal, we abandon our own authenticity, integrity and self-respect.
Tragically, we believe this is necessary.
Since 1980 my work has been focused on our fear of one another and the impact that has on our lives. Make no mistake, fear is alive and well. If you refuse to deal with it, it owns you.
I have specialized in working with the impact fear has on organizations and the people who work in them. The employees’ collective fear is reflected in the culture and the productivity of the organization. “Scared stiff” means just what it implies. This is as true for organizations as it is for individuals and the human body. It results in Business as Usual. Mistrust stifles the transformational vitality that flows unless leaders and employees do what it takes to trust one another.
Please Lie to Me makes unflinching eye contact with fear.
Please Lie to Me defines what it takes to liberate you, your workforce and your organization from governance by Fear.
Please Lie to Me takes on fear in the workplace by using a new agreement to replace business as usual. Implementing this New Agreement establishes Accountable Consciousness, which transforms the culture and the business. Please Lie to Me challenges business owners and leaders to take back the control of their cultures and organizations. In so doing, employees become fully engaged and the organization will reach currently unattainable heights of effectiveness and productivity.